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Chanchal Malviya wonders:
Sati Pratha or Simply Sati
A Hindu philosophy of women ness
SATI PRATHA – AS KNOWN TO MODERN WORLD
As far the common understanding about ‘Sati’ goes, it goes as about burning of a widow. The hype of burning women goes with an explanation like this: if the husband dies in an unnatural manner, the widow is forced to be burnt in the funeral if she herself does not accept it. The reasons behind this act as known are also many. One view known is that the woman and man are two bodies but one soul and hence death of one should be result in death of another, which would bring fame to the women for her faithfulness. Another view is that the widow may induce notorious people to go wrong against her. And at many times, it is simply accepted as a part of Hinduism as a traditional practice. I believe that the variance in views exists and signifies that it has nothing to do with religion. And there is a sound reason why I believe so – No where in any authenticated Hindu literature did I find such a rule. I agree, that there had been few occasional instances of such event, but then how did it come on the whole Hindu community – is a questionable point. Such instances of burning widows alive in the name of ‘Sati’ had been sometimes under news coverage too. Though, authenticity of such news as a religious practice or criminal causes was never traced after trial from criminal courts.
It is for sure that such cases were not very prominent in this country. Else, we would have found hundreds of women getting burnt every day. Now, what reasons lied behind those occasional and rare burning cases are under legal investigation arena. The media, newspaper and political forces have always declared them as religious drawback of Hindus. Had that been a religious process, as we have separate Islamic law, criminal offense would not have got registered and trials and punishments would not have taken place. Unfortunately, far more brutal acts are committed in Islam in India, but no law or politics interferes. No media highlights the religious brutalities, if they do not belong to Hinduism. In fact, such acts are actually not religious, as we will see in below sections; they are very rare and pure effect of enmity and individual differences. But, under the influence of Long Leaders, media highlights the events as a part of Hindu beliefs. If these events are not very occasional, if we do not find such events taking place in scriptures of Hindus, we will have to establish the core concept of ‘Sati’ in Hinduism in relation to such sarcastic events.
TRUTH OF ‘SATI’ AND THE ‘PRATHA’
The word ‘Sati’ started as the name of daughter of Raja Daksha, and wife of Lord Shiva. The myth goes like this – Once ‘Sati’ went to attend a ceremonial occasion planned by her father, though uninvited. Unaware of the fact that the occasion was kept for humiliating Sati’s husband Lord Shiva, she went there against the will of her husband, convincing him that going to her parents was her rights. But when she found that her husband was getting abused, she became so angry that she jumped into the flame of burning fire, making her father the guilty of her death. Lord Shiva got angry and destroyed Raja Daksha. How is the above myth related to burning of widow – ‘Sati’ was not a widow when she jumped in the funeral. Thus, such burnings in the name of ‘Sati’ is not at all justified in any way as per Hindu myths. In fact, the myth has manifold message to be analyzed. First, it shows that a ‘Sati’ should not have gone against her husband’s wish, as respecting him, particularly against people who goes to humiliate him, binds her stronger to him. Secondly, she delivered the blood relation a justice, but on the contrary she did not tolerate her husband’s humiliation. At one instance, this does not convey anything meaningful for those highly literate groups who live with the impression that these myths are baseless. But then these learned people should understand that when they undergo modern education like Business Management, they are told stories and puzzles related to Ant and Elephant that looks quite childish at one go, but conveys good management theories, actually practiced in Business world. Hindu myths are at least not based on animals and insects; they are mostly based on humans, Gods, deities and include all creatures around them. The reason such metaphors are of higher standard is purely because it visions a highly cultured society togetherness. How can they be absurd?
In medieval India, during Mughal attacks, Kshatriya women used to commit ‘Jauhar’, something similar to ‘Sati’, out of pure fear of Molestation and Rapes committed by Muslims after victory. Now, if the current literates say that even ‘Jauhar’ was wrong and not the Muslim attitude of molestation, the story ends here. But if not, then ‘Jauhar’ and the ‘Sati Pratha’ hyped today are two different things, for sure.
In both the points above, one myth and another hard reality, a picture of women in Hindu society is revealed, which is overlooked and the focus stills on women getting burnt. Both the points clearly reflect that Hindus have been a society where women were of utmost respect and molestation was as big a criminal offense as murder for the women. Dignity of a woman in Hindu society is directly related to her support to one and only one husband – unlike all other religious cultures where a woman marries one after another depending on her adjustments she or the husband can make with each other. Among Hindus, one-man relation builds so deep a binding between the partners that if one departs it is often hard for the other to resist – particularly for the woman. Kings though used to marry more than one wives, for political reasons mostly in order to either expand the territory through building relationships or provide the territory with more descendants.
However, in modern times none of the above criteria exists. Thus, in one or two cases, woman by herself have committed suicide at the untimely death of her husband. It is to be understood that such seldom events are either termed suicides or murders by Indian law – law that is made hard for around 70% of the population of India comprising of Hindus.
The above understanding of ‘Sati’ is what is known about it, in both positive and negative aspect. But in Hinduism, ‘Sati’ and ‘Pratha’ have a total different understanding than the above knowing. ‘Pratha’ is any practice that is coming from forefathers and is adopted by upcoming generation as well for the known well-impact. ‘Sati’ actually is a very pure word in Hinduism; it represents the purest form of woman; the purity that has tremendous power. The word refers to the natural power of a woman which she develops by the virtue of her truthfulness towards her husband. This truthfulness relates to so many aspects of the women and just not physical relationship. One, her thinking do not go beyond her husband, for the reason she regards the Husband nearly as God. Second, she acts to make sure that her actions in no way cause any damage or insult to her husband in any manner. In case, the woman finds contradicting ideology, she discusses it out with her Husband and her suggestions are greeted, recognized and honored. This still happens in Hindu family, in most of the cases. Instead of understanding the natural realization of women power by Hindus, unnecessary and meaningless conclusions are made about its myth and related to criminal incidences.
THE INDIAN WOMEN
There are many controversial scriptures too available as highlighted by other religions going against the honor of women among Hindus. A scripture from Ramayan goes as:
‘Dhol Gawanr Shudra Pashu Nari, Sakal Tadan ke Adhikari’.
It is to be noted that simply pulling out the word woman (‘Nari’) and declaring that Tulsidas told women are ought to be beaten and scolded (‘Tadan ke Adhikari’) as per Hindu society, would be wrong as the sentence contains many other entities and the context too has to be clarified. We will analyze the whole sentence and try to understand what is meant out of it, in context of the situation in the scripture, and as explained by Hindu saints. The above lines are said by the Sea Deity ‘Samudra’ to Lord Rama. When Lord Rama got angry and took out weapon in order to evaporate the whole sea, the deity appeared and said above lines in context of boundaries that are created by God himself in order to hold his creations. Even sea resides in its boundaries and hence to go across it, Rama supervised the construction of famous Rama Setu Bandh the trace of which exists even today. The metaphors are used to convince the reader that matter or non-matter, ignorant or learned, animal or human, all need to understand the importance of boundaries of nature. The exact meaning of the sentences even out of the context goes as:
Let us understand the literary meaning of ‘Tadana’ first. The word is of abstract meaning and can mean many things. Directly it means scolding or commenting so as to keep the conscience intact. Indirectly, it is considered as a boundary of society or family that holds a member of the family or society within its meaning.
‘Dhol’ means drum – it needs to be beaten, but in boundaries of rhythm to produce beauty of music, otherwise it becomes harsh noise.
‘Gawanr’ means ‘Ignorant and illiterate’ – they need to be held in the observed boundary and controllable limits, or else they would create havoc out of means of livelihood.
‘Shudra’ means ‘Worker classes – they need to be guided so that they do not create mess of their work.
‘Pashu’ means animal – they need to be controlled. ‘Nari’ means ‘Woman’ – they need to be kept in the boundary of culture, as they are more important pillar of a house, society and nation than men.
Thus, the complete sentence means within context of the story, as Drum, Ignorant, Illiterates, Animals and Women are ought to respect boundaries, so the sea also has its boundaries in respect and powers should not be forced to destabilize those boundaries – this is what is told by the deity. I wonder, instead of focusing on the real fact about how miles long bridge was constructed in those days over the sea (the bridge now being proven through the images from NASA and carbon dating for its age), a technology not known to modern world, the critics diverts the focus with wrong meanings to defame Indian values.
‘Sati’, as the myth also relates to women whose thoughts are always positive, whose actions are not doubtful, who regards her husband more than God, and who is purest in her existence. Actually, writers of Hindu text had deep-routed thoughts behind such concept which was never understood at social level in modern world and occasional incidences as an opportunity to political and other religious practitioners were correlated with ‘Sati Pratha’.
Women had been of highest regards in Hindu society. And this was exactly what Swami Vivekanand told when he was asked to differentiate west and east on this ground; he said, ‘In west, every woman other than a mother is a wife. But in India, every woman other than a wife is a mother’. Let the world show one country other than India, one society other than Hindu society that has moral as high as this. Which society would give so high regard to women, when she is called as Goddess Laxmi of the house where she dwells? Women enjoy the position of a deity, in most of the Hindu houses. Correlating the whole culture to few occasional incidences, which are criminal acts, would be absolutely wrong, diverting and intentional towards defaming the highest value society of the world.
Women are the pillars of a house. If they divert towards un-homely acts, it is for sure that collapse of the family would result. Indians believe that naturally, women are created more powerful then men. Men are stronger, but women are more powerful (In Hindu society, women are called ‘Shakti Swaroop’, meaning Goddess of Power). Strength and power are two different aspects. Strength persists in body, while power is a mental attribute. Tolerance capacity of women far exceeds men and it requires mental power to bear stress. Men are weak towards women, and this adds immensely to women’s power.
Women ness in India is a great responsibility. Women are the prestige of any house. People in India become dangerously aggressive if some external man tries to disregard their sister, mother, wife or any relation that belongs to them.
Everything depends on the perception of people and this perception is directly created by education system and social culture in which an individual grows. Honor and respect are a part of such perceptions and self-respect is the highest form of it. It depends on our perception how we want to see towards ourselves. If a woman is sure to find herself as an honorable lady, she has to at all cost maintain her dignity in her actions first. She has to see herself as a respectable woman first. Respect is a boundary and cannot be achieved by breaking through the walls of social culture and natural distinctions. Thus, ‘Sati’ word in Hinduism is an exact replica of such perception where a lady’s self-respect is maintained at highest state.
Unfortunately, the western culture during and after invasion percolated deep, breaking through the Indian beliefs. Culture of self-respect by practice of holding values was abolished under the shroud of English education and western life-style. Perceptions are stronger in framing individuality. Women started believing in their so appearing freedom of existence and lost their self-dignity first by categorizing Indian values as old scraps. What now appears to modern women as a boundary of religious belief is actually an important cultural regard which they are parting from their identity. Indian women were ever free, they only understood additional meaning of her relations with family, before or after marriage, and practiced a very important attribute of life – ‘Adjustment’ which is not found in any destabilized family, society, or nation. And who can deny the depth of this concept. No entity in this world exists without realizing the meaning of Adjustment. Adjustment in simple terms means compromising with one interest in order to realize or let realize another. Thus, Indian women in categorizing Indian values as scrap first compromise in their Originality and adjust to adopt the beliefs of aliens. It is important to understand that I call these as beliefs because there is no laws governing these kinds of life styles and they are framed under perceptions. Indian women are ready to adjust with what has proven to be failure in western society, but not with the responsibilities which has ever proved to be the reason of stability of families in India.
Some people simply thinks that one talking about Indian values and concepts like ‘Sati’ and all are against literacy and relates to blind faith or old faith prevalent in ancient times. They believe the time has changed and accordingly people have to change and hence the adoption of western culture is in process. But there is serious mistake that is committed by such mentalities – they have not understood the fundamental of how cultures in a country develop. First, whether ancient or modern, climatic conditions vary between West and East, particularly Indian climate has a different mixture than the climate variance in western countries. Secondly, geographical conditions hugely vary among the nations. Third, availability of natural resources also varies. There are many more conditions under which cultures are shaped, but these three conditions are enough to understand that the living conditions of creatures are hugely dependent on them. Thus, while in India, we have enough sources of Gold and money was not a necessary criterion of existence, culture developed around knowledge. And hence, if the concept of ‘Sati’ has erupted in Hindu scriptures, it cannot be meaningless, old or scrap. After all, the country has seen families thriving unbroken for thousands of years on same concept, unlike the West where parting is a very common solution. Thus, neglecting with a conclusion that ‘Sati’ is an old word, is not a reasonable answer to criticize it.
In any country, cultural identity of women is her true value. Unfortunately, under the sheet of modern education, women in India no more understands the meaning of ‘Sati’ as she no more holds that power. The true meaning of independence is lost and what is realized is the independence to do all wrong acts. If a woman is asked to respect and regard her elders, it is considered as boundary and conservativeness. If a woman is found to be in complete faith with her husband, she is like a religious lady. What is practiced now in terms of independence is the ability of a woman to murder her values, her dignity, and her identity. For her, freedom now means the opportunity to commit acts that can satisfy her desires. She is now expected to move freely with men other than husband and commit all that suits her desires. The culture to shape correct desires is vanished. The culture to allow fulfillment of extravagant desires now dominates.
If she lives with the belief that her husband is God, the whole community lives with the feeling that every woman is the Goddess. She is the ‘Laxmi’ (Goddess of Wealth and Peace) of her house and her house progresses on her constructive behavior. And we all know respect and regards are not things of demand. Westerners agree to this proverb, but do not practice them at mass level. Hindu society does this with perfection. What regards and respect can be more perfect, complete and greater than the one rendered towards God? At one go, it seems to be men dominated society, but in reality is brings out women with equal domination and respect. It is not that there is no dispute among wife and husbands. But then disputes are meant to be settled by matured people. Diversities are meant to be united. Separation is never a solution. ‘Sati’ was a well proven and adopted preventions culture against Separation.
The law of nature says that which comes easy goes easily, without pain no gain, perseverance is the key to all success, tolerance and patience is the answer to toughest problems. ‘Sati’ is a concept that shapes a woman around such hard ways of making life fruitful. The nature of shaping women is going against this. The so called advancement shrinks the broadened idea of human being social and responsible creature. Advancement might impact our living standards, but it doesn’t impacts our life in any manner. Life is a separate entity and it has nothing to do with this technology advancement. We take birth, we grow and we die is a natural phenomena. Technology has nothing to do with this. Desire is a natural phenomena where a need is created towards satisfaction of some physical or and mental agitation. Fulfillment of desire without being in synch to natural laws, the laws of humanness, the law of women ness, would surely lead to short term pleasure but long term devastation. And this is what is seen in most of the families. Marriages break away so easily. And why not should it break? After all, the meaning of marriage is achieved much before marriage and what remains after marriage is simply a reiteration of formed mechanical behavior. Feeling dies out even before it is established. Faith dies out even before it could be realized. Love dies out even before it could be felt. Husband is no more a unique person, he is another person in contrast to someone in past – better or worse. He becomes comparative and there is not limit to this concept. Naturally, someone is always better than you. If you are the best athlete, you are not the best dancer. If you are the best singer technically, someone would sound sweeter than you. If you are the noblest one, someone is the most beautiful one. Actually, this difference exists in individual perception. Nature has actually created everyone same but every perception is different. So, if a song is the sweetest for me, may be agitating for other. A beautiful face for me may not be that charming for other. Thus, nature has the capacity to create these perception patterns distinctly in every creature. And this is what is balanced in a Hindu society with the concept of ‘Sati’. ‘Sati’ makes a woman live with the perception that her husband is the best and the only one for her. Is this perception wrong or right? Is she actually restricting her thoughts by thinking so? I believe no – the impact of such philosophy is tremendously constructive. She becomes positive in her behavior so strongly that she earns the power to win over Nature and God. Practicing this philosophy is not easy and it requires patience, tolerance, perseverance, love, truthfulness and faith to be in character which defines a woman. Isn’t it thrilling to even imagine that the whole Indian society constituted of such great women.
We need to understand what does a Hindu mean when he says that the Husband is God for a woman. We should not simply declare it absurd. I will try to dig into its rationality. While going through Bhagwad Geeta, I found a different description of God there. The chapter explains the meaning of God acquiring the non-material world. Some of the excerpts of Lord Krishna’s words are, “Of the radiant Sun, I am the luminaries, of the senses I am the mind and intelligence in living beings, I am the quality of best among the best existences. Of the bodies of water, I am the Ocean, of the mountains I am the Meru, of lordly elephants I am Airavata, of men the king. I am the beginning, I am the middle and I am the end. I am the divine attributes of all realizations; there is no end to the particulars of my manifestations.” No where does this tell about any physical shape of God. Hence, it is required to correlate such definitions of God to Hindu aspects. And I found the meaning of a husband God.
For centuries, Hindu societies have seen stable married relations. The stability is long lasting because roots are deeper. A Hindu relation doesn’t exist as a simple human interaction. Most of the worldly relation breaks due to unfaithful behavior executed by partners. Unable to hold upon the senses, partners go beyond relations to unfold more powerful thoughts and actions. And to give this social behavior a respectful place, other religious believers cover it with the color of gender equality. Unlike the concept of equality, a Hindu society realizes the importance of men and women to be different and as defined by nature. For a man, going beyond his wife for unlawful relations is considered as sin and the same for a woman. The sin is the boundary that binds a Hindu family. For a woman, she recognizing her husband as a God binds her to believe that whatever she has got is complete manliness and she is bound in her perceptions to learn practicing complete mental and physical satisfaction. A woman cannot stick to one person, unless she has the highest regard for him. And thus, for a Hindu woman, her husband is the most intelligence person; he is the Meru, the Airavata, the king. He is the beginning and the end. He is everything for her. The definition of God is realized in such regarded relation. And consequently the family persists in stable and satisfied conditions. A women respecting and practicing this concept is considered as a ‘Sati’. This no where means that she should not live if her husband dies? This no where means that she should be burnt with her husband? It is disgusting to understand that such unlawful instances are attached to the high morale of a Hindu.
Sati Pratha or Simply Sati
A Hindu philosophy of women ness
SATI PRATHA – AS KNOWN TO MODERN WORLD
As far the common understanding about ‘Sati’ goes, it goes as about burning of a widow. The hype of burning women goes with an explanation like this: if the husband dies in an unnatural manner, the widow is forced to be burnt in the funeral if she herself does not accept it. The reasons behind this act as known are also many. One view known is that the woman and man are two bodies but one soul and hence death of one should be result in death of another, which would bring fame to the women for her faithfulness. Another view is that the widow may induce notorious people to go wrong against her. And at many times, it is simply accepted as a part of Hinduism as a traditional practice. I believe that the variance in views exists and signifies that it has nothing to do with religion. And there is a sound reason why I believe so – No where in any authenticated Hindu literature did I find such a rule. I agree, that there had been few occasional instances of such event, but then how did it come on the whole Hindu community – is a questionable point. Such instances of burning widows alive in the name of ‘Sati’ had been sometimes under news coverage too. Though, authenticity of such news as a religious practice or criminal causes was never traced after trial from criminal courts.
It is for sure that such cases were not very prominent in this country. Else, we would have found hundreds of women getting burnt every day. Now, what reasons lied behind those occasional and rare burning cases are under legal investigation arena. The media, newspaper and political forces have always declared them as religious drawback of Hindus. Had that been a religious process, as we have separate Islamic law, criminal offense would not have got registered and trials and punishments would not have taken place. Unfortunately, far more brutal acts are committed in Islam in India, but no law or politics interferes. No media highlights the religious brutalities, if they do not belong to Hinduism. In fact, such acts are actually not religious, as we will see in below sections; they are very rare and pure effect of enmity and individual differences. But, under the influence of Long Leaders, media highlights the events as a part of Hindu beliefs. If these events are not very occasional, if we do not find such events taking place in scriptures of Hindus, we will have to establish the core concept of ‘Sati’ in Hinduism in relation to such sarcastic events.
TRUTH OF ‘SATI’ AND THE ‘PRATHA’
The word ‘Sati’ started as the name of daughter of Raja Daksha, and wife of Lord Shiva. The myth goes like this – Once ‘Sati’ went to attend a ceremonial occasion planned by her father, though uninvited. Unaware of the fact that the occasion was kept for humiliating Sati’s husband Lord Shiva, she went there against the will of her husband, convincing him that going to her parents was her rights. But when she found that her husband was getting abused, she became so angry that she jumped into the flame of burning fire, making her father the guilty of her death. Lord Shiva got angry and destroyed Raja Daksha. How is the above myth related to burning of widow – ‘Sati’ was not a widow when she jumped in the funeral. Thus, such burnings in the name of ‘Sati’ is not at all justified in any way as per Hindu myths. In fact, the myth has manifold message to be analyzed. First, it shows that a ‘Sati’ should not have gone against her husband’s wish, as respecting him, particularly against people who goes to humiliate him, binds her stronger to him. Secondly, she delivered the blood relation a justice, but on the contrary she did not tolerate her husband’s humiliation. At one instance, this does not convey anything meaningful for those highly literate groups who live with the impression that these myths are baseless. But then these learned people should understand that when they undergo modern education like Business Management, they are told stories and puzzles related to Ant and Elephant that looks quite childish at one go, but conveys good management theories, actually practiced in Business world. Hindu myths are at least not based on animals and insects; they are mostly based on humans, Gods, deities and include all creatures around them. The reason such metaphors are of higher standard is purely because it visions a highly cultured society togetherness. How can they be absurd?
In medieval India, during Mughal attacks, Kshatriya women used to commit ‘Jauhar’, something similar to ‘Sati’, out of pure fear of Molestation and Rapes committed by Muslims after victory. Now, if the current literates say that even ‘Jauhar’ was wrong and not the Muslim attitude of molestation, the story ends here. But if not, then ‘Jauhar’ and the ‘Sati Pratha’ hyped today are two different things, for sure.
In both the points above, one myth and another hard reality, a picture of women in Hindu society is revealed, which is overlooked and the focus stills on women getting burnt. Both the points clearly reflect that Hindus have been a society where women were of utmost respect and molestation was as big a criminal offense as murder for the women. Dignity of a woman in Hindu society is directly related to her support to one and only one husband – unlike all other religious cultures where a woman marries one after another depending on her adjustments she or the husband can make with each other. Among Hindus, one-man relation builds so deep a binding between the partners that if one departs it is often hard for the other to resist – particularly for the woman. Kings though used to marry more than one wives, for political reasons mostly in order to either expand the territory through building relationships or provide the territory with more descendants.
However, in modern times none of the above criteria exists. Thus, in one or two cases, woman by herself have committed suicide at the untimely death of her husband. It is to be understood that such seldom events are either termed suicides or murders by Indian law – law that is made hard for around 70% of the population of India comprising of Hindus.
The above understanding of ‘Sati’ is what is known about it, in both positive and negative aspect. But in Hinduism, ‘Sati’ and ‘Pratha’ have a total different understanding than the above knowing. ‘Pratha’ is any practice that is coming from forefathers and is adopted by upcoming generation as well for the known well-impact. ‘Sati’ actually is a very pure word in Hinduism; it represents the purest form of woman; the purity that has tremendous power. The word refers to the natural power of a woman which she develops by the virtue of her truthfulness towards her husband. This truthfulness relates to so many aspects of the women and just not physical relationship. One, her thinking do not go beyond her husband, for the reason she regards the Husband nearly as God. Second, she acts to make sure that her actions in no way cause any damage or insult to her husband in any manner. In case, the woman finds contradicting ideology, she discusses it out with her Husband and her suggestions are greeted, recognized and honored. This still happens in Hindu family, in most of the cases. Instead of understanding the natural realization of women power by Hindus, unnecessary and meaningless conclusions are made about its myth and related to criminal incidences.
THE INDIAN WOMEN
There are many controversial scriptures too available as highlighted by other religions going against the honor of women among Hindus. A scripture from Ramayan goes as:
‘Dhol Gawanr Shudra Pashu Nari, Sakal Tadan ke Adhikari’.
It is to be noted that simply pulling out the word woman (‘Nari’) and declaring that Tulsidas told women are ought to be beaten and scolded (‘Tadan ke Adhikari’) as per Hindu society, would be wrong as the sentence contains many other entities and the context too has to be clarified. We will analyze the whole sentence and try to understand what is meant out of it, in context of the situation in the scripture, and as explained by Hindu saints. The above lines are said by the Sea Deity ‘Samudra’ to Lord Rama. When Lord Rama got angry and took out weapon in order to evaporate the whole sea, the deity appeared and said above lines in context of boundaries that are created by God himself in order to hold his creations. Even sea resides in its boundaries and hence to go across it, Rama supervised the construction of famous Rama Setu Bandh the trace of which exists even today. The metaphors are used to convince the reader that matter or non-matter, ignorant or learned, animal or human, all need to understand the importance of boundaries of nature. The exact meaning of the sentences even out of the context goes as:
Let us understand the literary meaning of ‘Tadana’ first. The word is of abstract meaning and can mean many things. Directly it means scolding or commenting so as to keep the conscience intact. Indirectly, it is considered as a boundary of society or family that holds a member of the family or society within its meaning.
‘Dhol’ means drum – it needs to be beaten, but in boundaries of rhythm to produce beauty of music, otherwise it becomes harsh noise.
‘Gawanr’ means ‘Ignorant and illiterate’ – they need to be held in the observed boundary and controllable limits, or else they would create havoc out of means of livelihood.
‘Shudra’ means ‘Worker classes – they need to be guided so that they do not create mess of their work.
‘Pashu’ means animal – they need to be controlled. ‘Nari’ means ‘Woman’ – they need to be kept in the boundary of culture, as they are more important pillar of a house, society and nation than men.
Thus, the complete sentence means within context of the story, as Drum, Ignorant, Illiterates, Animals and Women are ought to respect boundaries, so the sea also has its boundaries in respect and powers should not be forced to destabilize those boundaries – this is what is told by the deity. I wonder, instead of focusing on the real fact about how miles long bridge was constructed in those days over the sea (the bridge now being proven through the images from NASA and carbon dating for its age), a technology not known to modern world, the critics diverts the focus with wrong meanings to defame Indian values.
‘Sati’, as the myth also relates to women whose thoughts are always positive, whose actions are not doubtful, who regards her husband more than God, and who is purest in her existence. Actually, writers of Hindu text had deep-routed thoughts behind such concept which was never understood at social level in modern world and occasional incidences as an opportunity to political and other religious practitioners were correlated with ‘Sati Pratha’.
Women had been of highest regards in Hindu society. And this was exactly what Swami Vivekanand told when he was asked to differentiate west and east on this ground; he said, ‘In west, every woman other than a mother is a wife. But in India, every woman other than a wife is a mother’. Let the world show one country other than India, one society other than Hindu society that has moral as high as this. Which society would give so high regard to women, when she is called as Goddess Laxmi of the house where she dwells? Women enjoy the position of a deity, in most of the Hindu houses. Correlating the whole culture to few occasional incidences, which are criminal acts, would be absolutely wrong, diverting and intentional towards defaming the highest value society of the world.
Women are the pillars of a house. If they divert towards un-homely acts, it is for sure that collapse of the family would result. Indians believe that naturally, women are created more powerful then men. Men are stronger, but women are more powerful (In Hindu society, women are called ‘Shakti Swaroop’, meaning Goddess of Power). Strength and power are two different aspects. Strength persists in body, while power is a mental attribute. Tolerance capacity of women far exceeds men and it requires mental power to bear stress. Men are weak towards women, and this adds immensely to women’s power.
Women ness in India is a great responsibility. Women are the prestige of any house. People in India become dangerously aggressive if some external man tries to disregard their sister, mother, wife or any relation that belongs to them.
Everything depends on the perception of people and this perception is directly created by education system and social culture in which an individual grows. Honor and respect are a part of such perceptions and self-respect is the highest form of it. It depends on our perception how we want to see towards ourselves. If a woman is sure to find herself as an honorable lady, she has to at all cost maintain her dignity in her actions first. She has to see herself as a respectable woman first. Respect is a boundary and cannot be achieved by breaking through the walls of social culture and natural distinctions. Thus, ‘Sati’ word in Hinduism is an exact replica of such perception where a lady’s self-respect is maintained at highest state.
Unfortunately, the western culture during and after invasion percolated deep, breaking through the Indian beliefs. Culture of self-respect by practice of holding values was abolished under the shroud of English education and western life-style. Perceptions are stronger in framing individuality. Women started believing in their so appearing freedom of existence and lost their self-dignity first by categorizing Indian values as old scraps. What now appears to modern women as a boundary of religious belief is actually an important cultural regard which they are parting from their identity. Indian women were ever free, they only understood additional meaning of her relations with family, before or after marriage, and practiced a very important attribute of life – ‘Adjustment’ which is not found in any destabilized family, society, or nation. And who can deny the depth of this concept. No entity in this world exists without realizing the meaning of Adjustment. Adjustment in simple terms means compromising with one interest in order to realize or let realize another. Thus, Indian women in categorizing Indian values as scrap first compromise in their Originality and adjust to adopt the beliefs of aliens. It is important to understand that I call these as beliefs because there is no laws governing these kinds of life styles and they are framed under perceptions. Indian women are ready to adjust with what has proven to be failure in western society, but not with the responsibilities which has ever proved to be the reason of stability of families in India.
Some people simply thinks that one talking about Indian values and concepts like ‘Sati’ and all are against literacy and relates to blind faith or old faith prevalent in ancient times. They believe the time has changed and accordingly people have to change and hence the adoption of western culture is in process. But there is serious mistake that is committed by such mentalities – they have not understood the fundamental of how cultures in a country develop. First, whether ancient or modern, climatic conditions vary between West and East, particularly Indian climate has a different mixture than the climate variance in western countries. Secondly, geographical conditions hugely vary among the nations. Third, availability of natural resources also varies. There are many more conditions under which cultures are shaped, but these three conditions are enough to understand that the living conditions of creatures are hugely dependent on them. Thus, while in India, we have enough sources of Gold and money was not a necessary criterion of existence, culture developed around knowledge. And hence, if the concept of ‘Sati’ has erupted in Hindu scriptures, it cannot be meaningless, old or scrap. After all, the country has seen families thriving unbroken for thousands of years on same concept, unlike the West where parting is a very common solution. Thus, neglecting with a conclusion that ‘Sati’ is an old word, is not a reasonable answer to criticize it.
In any country, cultural identity of women is her true value. Unfortunately, under the sheet of modern education, women in India no more understands the meaning of ‘Sati’ as she no more holds that power. The true meaning of independence is lost and what is realized is the independence to do all wrong acts. If a woman is asked to respect and regard her elders, it is considered as boundary and conservativeness. If a woman is found to be in complete faith with her husband, she is like a religious lady. What is practiced now in terms of independence is the ability of a woman to murder her values, her dignity, and her identity. For her, freedom now means the opportunity to commit acts that can satisfy her desires. She is now expected to move freely with men other than husband and commit all that suits her desires. The culture to shape correct desires is vanished. The culture to allow fulfillment of extravagant desires now dominates.
If she lives with the belief that her husband is God, the whole community lives with the feeling that every woman is the Goddess. She is the ‘Laxmi’ (Goddess of Wealth and Peace) of her house and her house progresses on her constructive behavior. And we all know respect and regards are not things of demand. Westerners agree to this proverb, but do not practice them at mass level. Hindu society does this with perfection. What regards and respect can be more perfect, complete and greater than the one rendered towards God? At one go, it seems to be men dominated society, but in reality is brings out women with equal domination and respect. It is not that there is no dispute among wife and husbands. But then disputes are meant to be settled by matured people. Diversities are meant to be united. Separation is never a solution. ‘Sati’ was a well proven and adopted preventions culture against Separation.
The law of nature says that which comes easy goes easily, without pain no gain, perseverance is the key to all success, tolerance and patience is the answer to toughest problems. ‘Sati’ is a concept that shapes a woman around such hard ways of making life fruitful. The nature of shaping women is going against this. The so called advancement shrinks the broadened idea of human being social and responsible creature. Advancement might impact our living standards, but it doesn’t impacts our life in any manner. Life is a separate entity and it has nothing to do with this technology advancement. We take birth, we grow and we die is a natural phenomena. Technology has nothing to do with this. Desire is a natural phenomena where a need is created towards satisfaction of some physical or and mental agitation. Fulfillment of desire without being in synch to natural laws, the laws of humanness, the law of women ness, would surely lead to short term pleasure but long term devastation. And this is what is seen in most of the families. Marriages break away so easily. And why not should it break? After all, the meaning of marriage is achieved much before marriage and what remains after marriage is simply a reiteration of formed mechanical behavior. Feeling dies out even before it is established. Faith dies out even before it could be realized. Love dies out even before it could be felt. Husband is no more a unique person, he is another person in contrast to someone in past – better or worse. He becomes comparative and there is not limit to this concept. Naturally, someone is always better than you. If you are the best athlete, you are not the best dancer. If you are the best singer technically, someone would sound sweeter than you. If you are the noblest one, someone is the most beautiful one. Actually, this difference exists in individual perception. Nature has actually created everyone same but every perception is different. So, if a song is the sweetest for me, may be agitating for other. A beautiful face for me may not be that charming for other. Thus, nature has the capacity to create these perception patterns distinctly in every creature. And this is what is balanced in a Hindu society with the concept of ‘Sati’. ‘Sati’ makes a woman live with the perception that her husband is the best and the only one for her. Is this perception wrong or right? Is she actually restricting her thoughts by thinking so? I believe no – the impact of such philosophy is tremendously constructive. She becomes positive in her behavior so strongly that she earns the power to win over Nature and God. Practicing this philosophy is not easy and it requires patience, tolerance, perseverance, love, truthfulness and faith to be in character which defines a woman. Isn’t it thrilling to even imagine that the whole Indian society constituted of such great women.
We need to understand what does a Hindu mean when he says that the Husband is God for a woman. We should not simply declare it absurd. I will try to dig into its rationality. While going through Bhagwad Geeta, I found a different description of God there. The chapter explains the meaning of God acquiring the non-material world. Some of the excerpts of Lord Krishna’s words are, “Of the radiant Sun, I am the luminaries, of the senses I am the mind and intelligence in living beings, I am the quality of best among the best existences. Of the bodies of water, I am the Ocean, of the mountains I am the Meru, of lordly elephants I am Airavata, of men the king. I am the beginning, I am the middle and I am the end. I am the divine attributes of all realizations; there is no end to the particulars of my manifestations.” No where does this tell about any physical shape of God. Hence, it is required to correlate such definitions of God to Hindu aspects. And I found the meaning of a husband God.
For centuries, Hindu societies have seen stable married relations. The stability is long lasting because roots are deeper. A Hindu relation doesn’t exist as a simple human interaction. Most of the worldly relation breaks due to unfaithful behavior executed by partners. Unable to hold upon the senses, partners go beyond relations to unfold more powerful thoughts and actions. And to give this social behavior a respectful place, other religious believers cover it with the color of gender equality. Unlike the concept of equality, a Hindu society realizes the importance of men and women to be different and as defined by nature. For a man, going beyond his wife for unlawful relations is considered as sin and the same for a woman. The sin is the boundary that binds a Hindu family. For a woman, she recognizing her husband as a God binds her to believe that whatever she has got is complete manliness and she is bound in her perceptions to learn practicing complete mental and physical satisfaction. A woman cannot stick to one person, unless she has the highest regard for him. And thus, for a Hindu woman, her husband is the most intelligence person; he is the Meru, the Airavata, the king. He is the beginning and the end. He is everything for her. The definition of God is realized in such regarded relation. And consequently the family persists in stable and satisfied conditions. A women respecting and practicing this concept is considered as a ‘Sati’. This no where means that she should not live if her husband dies? This no where means that she should be burnt with her husband? It is disgusting to understand that such unlawful instances are attached to the high morale of a Hindu.
Friday 31 October 2008 @ 2:43 am
bill w 33 days to hockey 【ツ】 wonders:
I saw on the news that 2% of the population has “face blindness” where it is difficult or impossible to remember faces, so strangers and close relatives can be confused with each other.
I saw on the news that 2% of the population has “face blindness” where it is difficult or impossible to remember faces, so strangers and close relatives can be confused with each other.
I must have mild face blindness as I still confuse people with each other that I have known for over 10 years
Friday 31 October 2008 @ 2:02 am
Andy Smith wonders:
Is there any person on this earth who has not faced adversity? Life can be good, but adversities are also part of life. How does one face them with equanimity? It is difficult if the extent of adversity is very high. But one has to live through adversities and come back in life to succeed again. A sudden accident can make one lose limbs. A man who makes his living with his hands, will surely feel very bad and devastated if he loses his working hand. How about the effect of the announcement by the doctor that your child has cancer? Can parents take this news calmly? They will most probably faint when they hear it first. Some adversities are such that they shatter lives forever. But strong will and faith can help one face and conquer many adversities.
Who has not heard of Helen Keller? Her blindness and deafness could not shatter her indomitable spirit. There are many instances of such people. I had corresponded with families of cancer stricken children. The pain that I saw was enough to shake the bravest heart. I remember a small kid girl, who developed second degree burns as a reaction to her Chemotherapy. Her mother had a guest book and the notes on that site could make anyone weep. The pain that the child was undergoing was tremendous. But the photographs of a capped child smiling and laughing in the laps of her father were heart warming. Somewhere the spirit was alive in the family to fight it out cheerfully.
I also remember my conversations with a blind man of 70 years of age. He was secretary of one of the blind help groups. For sometime, during my talk, I realized that something strange was happening. Then suddenly it stuck me that this gentleman was using words such as Oh, I see, etc. Without giving a pause. I was amazed with this talk. I knew that he had been a blind man for more than 40 years. I somehow gathered strength and asked him about usage of such words. He told me casually that there was nothing great about that. He could read and write and even type as well as any normal person. Though he had Braille. And he could see the faces with his touch. He had no regrets about his blindness. He had taken it as a fact of life and there was no feeling of having been dealt bad cards by the fate. Such people make us feel that adversities come to strengthen us. They test us. It is surely very tough to overcome them, but a strong will and faith in oneself and one’s God can give enough strength to overcome them.
Let us look at the life as a moving vehicle. As we move, we pass many scenes. Some good and some dirty. But we sit though the journey peacefully and reach our destination. We mostly remain unmoved because – we are not directly pained by the scenes outside and our focus is more on reaching the destination. In any adversity, at least the second part can be applied. Come what may, our object should be to create a good life and live as an example for others. That should be our destination and that should be our motivation.
Is there any person on this earth who has not faced adversity? Life can be good, but adversities are also part of life. How does one face them with equanimity? It is difficult if the extent of adversity is very high. But one has to live through adversities and come back in life to succeed again. A sudden accident can make one lose limbs. A man who makes his living with his hands, will surely feel very bad and devastated if he loses his working hand. How about the effect of the announcement by the doctor that your child has cancer? Can parents take this news calmly? They will most probably faint when they hear it first. Some adversities are such that they shatter lives forever. But strong will and faith can help one face and conquer many adversities.
Who has not heard of Helen Keller? Her blindness and deafness could not shatter her indomitable spirit. There are many instances of such people. I had corresponded with families of cancer stricken children. The pain that I saw was enough to shake the bravest heart. I remember a small kid girl, who developed second degree burns as a reaction to her Chemotherapy. Her mother had a guest book and the notes on that site could make anyone weep. The pain that the child was undergoing was tremendous. But the photographs of a capped child smiling and laughing in the laps of her father were heart warming. Somewhere the spirit was alive in the family to fight it out cheerfully.
I also remember my conversations with a blind man of 70 years of age. He was secretary of one of the blind help groups. For sometime, during my talk, I realized that something strange was happening. Then suddenly it stuck me that this gentleman was using words such as Oh, I see, etc. Without giving a pause. I was amazed with this talk. I knew that he had been a blind man for more than 40 years. I somehow gathered strength and asked him about usage of such words. He told me casually that there was nothing great about that. He could read and write and even type as well as any normal person. Though he had Braille. And he could see the faces with his touch. He had no regrets about his blindness. He had taken it as a fact of life and there was no feeling of having been dealt bad cards by the fate. Such people make us feel that adversities come to strengthen us. They test us. It is surely very tough to overcome them, but a strong will and faith in oneself and one’s God can give enough strength to overcome them.
Let us look at the life as a moving vehicle. As we move, we pass many scenes. Some good and some dirty. But we sit though the journey peacefully and reach our destination. We mostly remain unmoved because – we are not directly pained by the scenes outside and our focus is more on reaching the destination. In any adversity, at least the second part can be applied. Come what may, our object should be to create a good life and live as an example for others. That should be our destination and that should be our motivation.
Wednesday 29 October 2008 @ 8:15 am
Heather Madison wonders:
Outdoor bamboo blinds provide relief from the sun and rain, and they add a beautiful Asian feel to your home. Outdoor blinds made of materials like bamboo, wood, or other natural element are known in Japan as sudare or misu. The bamboo or wood is held together by yarn, string, or another decorative material.
Many people have outdoor areas on their homes, but use them less than they’d like because the area gets too hot or they get rained on when the weather is bad. In warm climate, outdoor areas can be used year round, particularly if there is some sort of weather protection. Outdoor blinds make your outdoor spaces more usable.
You can attach outdoor blinds to porches, verandas, or other outdoor areas with some sort of overhead structure. They are great for outdoor rooms in any climate because they block the sun, keep out the rain, and deter insects from getting in. Traditionally, bamboo blinds would be put up in the spring and then taken down in the fall. In warmer climates where outdoor areas can be utilized all year long, you can leave them up.
In Japan’s past, sudare were tied together with expensive silk and gold embroidery. Some outdoor blinds had paintings on them, usually on the inside of the blind, and they sometimes have symbols painted on the outside. They were also used for imperial audiences.
Outdoor bamboo blinds can be rolled or folded up when you want to allow more light into the outdoor area. Perhaps your porch faces the south and is comfortable in the morning, but too hot with the sun in the afternoon. In this case, you can roll up the blinds during the morning hours, allowing the sun’s rays in, and then unroll the blinds to block out the sun in the afternoon and early evening.
You can easily install the bamboo blinds on your porch or veranda. You’ll need a few basic tools and the manufacturer’s instructions. Just follow what the instructions direct and you’ll have the blinds up in no time at all. Once you have them up, they are easy to adjust and roll up or down.
Outdoor bamboo blinds will give your home an exotic feel and look. You’ll love how they look and how they help block the hot sun so you can enjoy your outdoor spaces more often. Outdoor blinds block the sun, but they also let in cooling breezes and allow for air circulation. This will help keep the outdoor area comfortable for you anytime you want to enjoy it.
Outdoor bamboo blinds provide relief from the sun and rain, and they add a beautiful Asian feel to your home. Outdoor blinds made of materials like bamboo, wood, or other natural element are known in Japan as sudare or misu. The bamboo or wood is held together by yarn, string, or another decorative material.
Many people have outdoor areas on their homes, but use them less than they’d like because the area gets too hot or they get rained on when the weather is bad. In warm climate, outdoor areas can be used year round, particularly if there is some sort of weather protection. Outdoor blinds make your outdoor spaces more usable.
You can attach outdoor blinds to porches, verandas, or other outdoor areas with some sort of overhead structure. They are great for outdoor rooms in any climate because they block the sun, keep out the rain, and deter insects from getting in. Traditionally, bamboo blinds would be put up in the spring and then taken down in the fall. In warmer climates where outdoor areas can be utilized all year long, you can leave them up.
In Japan’s past, sudare were tied together with expensive silk and gold embroidery. Some outdoor blinds had paintings on them, usually on the inside of the blind, and they sometimes have symbols painted on the outside. They were also used for imperial audiences.
Outdoor bamboo blinds can be rolled or folded up when you want to allow more light into the outdoor area. Perhaps your porch faces the south and is comfortable in the morning, but too hot with the sun in the afternoon. In this case, you can roll up the blinds during the morning hours, allowing the sun’s rays in, and then unroll the blinds to block out the sun in the afternoon and early evening.
You can easily install the bamboo blinds on your porch or veranda. You’ll need a few basic tools and the manufacturer’s instructions. Just follow what the instructions direct and you’ll have the blinds up in no time at all. Once you have them up, they are easy to adjust and roll up or down.
Outdoor bamboo blinds will give your home an exotic feel and look. You’ll love how they look and how they help block the hot sun so you can enjoy your outdoor spaces more often. Outdoor blinds block the sun, but they also let in cooling breezes and allow for air circulation. This will help keep the outdoor area comfortable for you anytime you want to enjoy it.
Tuesday 28 October 2008 @ 7:07 pm
nicola f wonders:
a few years ago my cat was hit in the face by a nasty old lady with her walking stick
i took the cat to the vets and they looked at his eye
it had a cut in it
since then my cat is blind
he has never had any nasty stuff coming out of it
he has never rubbed it
and it hasnt given him any trouble
i didnt want the vet to cut the eye out
as it is stil clear
but recently the eye has got a little bigger
it isnt giving him any trouble
but i am worried
i know if i take him t the vets he will have the eye removed
but hes a old cat and i dont want hi to have a opperation unless it was for something that would save his life
should i take him risk a opperation
or hould i leave him happy
im at a loss here.
i love my kitty and dont want him to have a painfull op
do any of you have any ideas why his eye is getting bigger
please help thanks love nicky.x.
he is blind in the eye you can put your hand infront of his and move it around real cose he dosent see it
the eye is defenatly bigger the pupil is large and and slightly misty i thought it could b a cataract
i know it all started years ago with the hit to the head
at the time the vet just said it will heal and he belived it could cause blindness in the future
i think i will take him for a check up but i dont think unless its neded i will get him a op
thanks for the comments so far
the lady was 99 she lived next door to me
she did some real nasty things
she threw a boiling pan of peas at one cat
tried to poison the one she hit she put food down in her yard with bleach or costic soda in it
my cat ate or icked it and had the most horrid thing happen to his toung
the vet was horrified but they wouldnt do anything i reported her to the rspca and due to her been old they said they coudnt prove it
she also trapped one cat and he ripped his side escaping
she was sick
shes gone now to a old peoples home
i ove animals and i dont care who it is or how old they should be sentanced
my animals are my familly
and i treat them as my equal
that is why i am worried about tolouse
he hasnt lost weight or anything but the eye is just bugging me i think i will take him on monday to get it checked.
a few years ago my cat was hit in the face by a nasty old lady with her walking stick
i took the cat to the vets and they looked at his eye
it had a cut in it
since then my cat is blind
he has never had any nasty stuff coming out of it
he has never rubbed it
and it hasnt given him any trouble
i didnt want the vet to cut the eye out
as it is stil clear
but recently the eye has got a little bigger
it isnt giving him any trouble
but i am worried
i know if i take him t the vets he will have the eye removed
but hes a old cat and i dont want hi to have a opperation unless it was for something that would save his life
should i take him risk a opperation
or hould i leave him happy
im at a loss here.
i love my kitty and dont want him to have a painfull op
do any of you have any ideas why his eye is getting bigger
please help thanks love nicky.x.
he is blind in the eye you can put your hand infront of his and move it around real cose he dosent see it
the eye is defenatly bigger the pupil is large and and slightly misty i thought it could b a cataract
i know it all started years ago with the hit to the head
at the time the vet just said it will heal and he belived it could cause blindness in the future
i think i will take him for a check up but i dont think unless its neded i will get him a op
thanks for the comments so far
the lady was 99 she lived next door to me
she did some real nasty things
she threw a boiling pan of peas at one cat
tried to poison the one she hit she put food down in her yard with bleach or costic soda in it
my cat ate or icked it and had the most horrid thing happen to his toung
the vet was horrified but they wouldnt do anything i reported her to the rspca and due to her been old they said they coudnt prove it
she also trapped one cat and he ripped his side escaping
she was sick
shes gone now to a old peoples home
i ove animals and i dont care who it is or how old they should be sentanced
my animals are my familly
and i treat them as my equal
that is why i am worried about tolouse
he hasnt lost weight or anything but the eye is just bugging me i think i will take him on monday to get it checked.
Tuesday 28 October 2008 @ 11:14 am
Lo wonders:
I’ve been doing a lot of study into space, time, and life as we know it. I’ve got lots of questions and fewer answers, for instance, the Bible…..What the fuck?? If there is a God and the Bible is true, then why is it that God had to make all of his statements during the “Biblical Times”?? I mean, for instance, parting the seas, the 10 Commandments, turning water into wine, Noah’s Ark, the Virgin Mary, Being resurrected, etc. Weren’t the people who witnessed all of this technically cheating?? I mean, a story is told, some people witness this, and then what? We are to believe mortals that wrote stuff down in a book some thousands of years ago? Then this day and age comes around and all we get is that the Virgin Mary is trying to prove her existence on a half eaten piece of grilled cheese?? Where’s the fucking parting of the seas, or the dead coming alive, or it raining for 40 days and 40 nights for us?? Tell me this, if I was to tell you that God had told me a whole new set of rules for this day and age, listed in a whole new text of commandments, how quickly would I be thrown into a straight jacket and tossed into a padded room?? Think about it, why can one person believe all of the almost inhuman stories of the Bible, but not believe in magick, or magicians, or even ghosts? After all, was there not a Spirit and Holy Ghost mentioned in the Bible as the creator of all? If God created us all equal, then why do some in the early years of life, already get cancer, or are mentally handicapped, or suffer from other diseases? If you ask me, just me being able to walk, already makes me less equal to someone stuck in a wheelchair! I’m not saying I’m a better person, BUT, I do have more capabilities than them, it’s not fair, and for the children that die young, most would say, “Well they’re going to Heaven” WHY?? Because they didn’t have enough time to sever one of the commandments?? So if I live to be 100 years old, with many chances of possibly discouraging one of these “carved in stone” rules, and I end up, lets say, not honoring thy neighbor for instance, I go to Hell?? But a child gets to go to Heaven because he really hasn’t had a chance to see the “Ugly” in the world? That’s not quite fair to those who were blessed with this long life, witnessing Greed, Anger, Hate, Blasphemy, 10,000 different religions, and fights between who is wrong or right, War, Theft, Poverty, Bankruptcy, Bigotry, Disease, Murder, Illness, Loneliness, Evil, Rape, Incest, Pedophiles, Corruption, Mind Control, Government, Power Hunger, Arthritis, Anxiety, Stress, Unemployment and Exhaustion! If Heaven is the ultimate in happiness, and God is so perfect, why, when he says we are all equal, did he not make us all live to the same age and make us ALL equal? Therefore, the “Big Test” would fit all categories! What about all the other beliefs? What about Muslims, Mormons, Jehovah Witnesses, Wiccan’s, Islam’s, Catholics, Christians, Protestants, etc. Who is right? Are all the wrong ones going to Hell?? I wouldn’t exactly say that’s right, and YES, I will be the one to stand forth in front of God, and ask him all of this, if, in fact, he really does exist. For a God who says, “Don’t question me, for I am your Lord” made one GIGANTIC Boo-boo, he made us one of the most curious, and “Having to know” life forms known to man, for an entity so perfect as described in the Bible, how could he make such a mistake? Now lets go back to a human, which of course, are the ones who wrote the Bible by only hearing what was to be put into it. If I told you that I was a magician, but my only power was to turn an egg into a living bird, and I said, “Don’t question me, for I am a magician” everyone would laugh and try their damnest to find the answer to how I did this!! WOW! I turned an egg into a living creature!! But then, you look into a giant book considered non-fiction, or true, and read about Moses parting the seas, Noah building an ark so fucking big is can hold two of every living thing, about how it rained for 40 days and 40 nights, about Jesus getting nailed to a cross and then died and then got resurrected, about Sodom and Gomorrah and the pillar of salt that was once a woman who got to curious and looked back at the burning city, you will read this and say, “Wow, this must have happened, because it’s based on real places in the world!!” THAT DOESN’T MAKE SENSE!!! According to all religions, what is written in their book of worship, really happened, but I’d hate to break it to you all, either one of those things happened, or NONE OF IT happened, because if they all happened, then we would have over 100 Gods and Goddesses, the Wiccan’s and Greeks alone have numerous Gods and Goddesses, and yet again, they have their stories, did it ever make you wonder if some people, just like today, just felt like sitting down and writing the “Ultimate Story” and just used things that they witnessed with a little added feature of their own imaginations to make the story better? For instance, Sodom and Gomorrah, we had a city, built of rock, the Bible describes this city as the burning city, “Fire falling from the skies” to rid the area of incest, rape, etc. Did you know that the cities were built on top of one of the many troubling tectonic plates beneath the surface of the Earth, did you know that when these plates hit just right, or get unstuck from one another an Earthquake is normally the result of this? It’s also proven that pockets of gases are released when a strong enough Earthquake hits, and well an Earthquake hitting these cities, plus a release of gases coming in contact with a torch that may be lit in the city, would cause buildings to crash, explosions so enormous that burning objects would fly up into the sky and come crashing back down onto the city, and cause the death of many people. For others looking on, it would seem as if fire is falling from the Heavens, and therefore, it’s written down and documented. it’s things like these that people will be so quick to say, “There is a God, and Jesus Christ is my savior” all because a book says so! Well there were also other documentations made during these days, Serpents, Dragons, Monsters of the Seas, Aliens, etc. So why have we found skeletal remains of creatures that lived some millions and millions of years ago, but there are no remains of a Serpent or dragon that was documented during the Biblical times? Why do we only find the cities the Bible talks about, or bones of ancient Egyptians that were mentioned in there? It’s easy to be mentioned in a book if you were known to a lot of people, and a city is even easier to document, if King Tut was so great and got a beautiful resting place with jewelry and gold laid upon him, then why didn’t Jesus get something like this? Why can’t we at least find his bones?? Since the Bible says it’s the spirit that lives on, and we simply leave behind our shells, then Jesus also should have left behind his shell, where is it?? One of the greatest people EVER, and we don’t even have a piece of clothing?? How do people claim theirs vials of Jesus’ Blood? If his whole body disappeared spiritually, then his blood too, would have vanished right? Noah’s Ark, some claim they found wood way up in the mountains that could have very well been Noah’s Ark…..Well that’s awesome, but why did we only hear about it for a day, and then nothing?? I sit here, I watch the news endlessly, just waiting for these ground breaking stories to emerge, to help me believe, to prove that there is something beyond life, beyond the galaxy and even beyond the universe, but yet, nothing. Not a damn thing! Wouldn’t something like Noah’s Ark be a little more fascinating than a whole days worth of news?? Damn man, an 18 year old has sex with a 15 year old, and we hear about both people in depth, when their cases are, how they are convicted, the only thing missing is their shoe size! It goes on for days, sometimes weeks!! But Noah’s Ark only gets a DAY??!!! Well, IF they did find this wood up there, high in the mountains, it could have also been from the lands crushing together in time, after all, most of the largest mountains are nothing more than two huge bodies of land crushing into each other with such immense force, that the only way the land has to go, is up! That would be the reasons they found fossils at the highest peaks of the mountains that belong to sea life, because that land that reaches to the heavens was once underwater, DEEP underwater! So if you think about it, a boat that has sunk a long long time ago, could very well end up at the tops of these mountains! On another note, if our galaxy is just a speck, among millions and millions of other galaxies, who’s to say there is not life in some of them? If there is, then why did God decide to plant Jesus in one of our people? Are the rest of the worlds stuck in life of blindness? I wouldn’t say it’s quite fair to them that we got the only cheat sheet to existence after life, and do they Go to Hell because they don’t know the possible truth? Could you even imagine, if there is life on other planets, the amount of OTHER religions there are on just one of those planets?? And once again, whose to say they don’t have their own bible that’s possibly ONLY dedicated to cannibalism because their God said that it’s the right thing to do, and who witnessed all of those sayings from their God? The Mayan’s on Earth believed that the Gods or God fed off of the blood of sacrifice, hardly something we would believe is true in this day and age, but surely they had some sort of reason to believe this, who witnessed that this was the right thing to do? Why was it the right thing to do if it was in fact true? Why did the blood not rise up to the Heaven’s when the sacrifices took place and why did the Mayan’s not question this and see that the only place it went was through the open pores of the planet representing that technically Hell was engulfing the dead remnants? Everywhere from the Mayan’s to the Christians to the Indians, someone, somewhere supposedly witnessed something of great power, and every one of them wrote it down, and whoever came after was told these stories, all the way up to this day and age, now we are stuck, stuck with many different stories from many different regions, and all of them have a different tale to tell, some believe in one Almighty, while many others believe in many that share the same decisions of fate. So how does one person tell another that they are wrong? Are they that self minded that no one else can have an opinion of their own? If I believe in Pro-choice, and someone else believes in Pro-life, who are they to tell me I am wrong, and who am I to tell them I am right? If killing a baby is bad, then why is it ok to kill a human in war?? Because they are going to kill us if we don’t kill them?? Well according to the Bible, Killing is killing whether it’s done for duty, profit or fun! So who is anyone to say one person is right and one person is wrong, this planet has grown up on many things, one is killing, in the old years, it was done for power over all, at one time, it was the main source to keep certain nationalities strong, to live on as the King or Queen of whatever, for wealth and to become Gods of everyone else. Today, countries will say they are doing it for protection, but just like the Bible, we only believe what we are told, could it be that our Government is really just using our people to fight in these wars because they are simply nervous of another country becoming a little more powerful than us?? I would say it’s very possible, but yet, we need to kill other innocent people to keep this rank? Well if we are the most powerful, and everyone under us is less powerful, I don’t really see the less powerful people really bitching about it, the only ones having a tantrum is their governments, but the normal people, like the majority of us, seem to be living their lives just fine! Now obviously people like Osama Bin Laden gave our government a reason to attack, BUT, they say they attacked us first due to what their God told them to do! We laugh in his face and would feed him a bullet if we could, but think just for a second at what we are laughing at as we pull that trigger, we are laughing at a person who claims that his God told him to do this, isn’t this kind of the same thing as laughing at the human voice reading off the Ten Commandments, or the story passed on to others that they better follow onto an ark because a great flood is about to happen? I mean in the Bible, God sacrificed His ONLY SON!!! So technically, what is so insane about a God telling someone else to kill multiple people that don’t agree with his faith? If you can have your own son sacrificed, you can have anyone sacrificed. And don’t say that it was done for the forgiveness of our sins, why be so difficult? If Jesus died for our sins, and it cost God his ONLY son to do this, and then we are born into sin anyway, why didn’t God just make it simple?? HE IS GOD AFTER ALL! He didn’t have to do all that, he could have had his son grow on and get old and live happy and simply snap his fingers and say, “And with this snap of my fingers I say, LET THERE BE FORGIVENESS FOR SIN” and POOF it happens! Why be so complex? Because he can?? Didn’t he complete this already when he created the universe? Did he really have to get so specific and in depth that he pin pointed our little speck of dust we call Earth and add more to the pot of confusion? I don’t think so, but I am just like anyone else, born with questions that burn so fierce that with every year that ages me also adds a little more fuel to my need for an answer. I’m not a scientist, and I surely would not jump right to evolution, after all, if evolution is real and we never stop evolving, then why are there not half monkey half men running around, why are there monkeys and then there are humans? Shouldn’t every cycle be bumping into each other, or did the monkeys just decide some million years ago that they wanted to stop evolving, and then told the humans that were already evolved that they were on their own? Why is it that the oldest human being that has been found, is still pretty damn close to what we look like today? I may be wrong with that analogy, but damn it, at least I’m poking a stick at it, rather than walking around blind in my existence with two words and ONLY two words sitting in my head, “What if”!! I need to know, and I will either find out, or go insane trying. I can understand why Albert Einstein went nuts, I’m sure he overloaded his mind, for a mind so great as his, to somehow come up with the correct equation that Energy is in fact equal to mass times the speed of light and then multiplied again by the speed of light, is so outstandingly awesome, that it would be understandable that he was overloading, and then there’s me, surely no Einstein, with all of this in my head, more confusion than anything, but yet knowledgeable to be able to question “why” it would be understandable that I too, someday, will break. All of us have one major thing in common, Hope. Hope that our faith IS right, that there is something beyond, why can’t we all just look up in the skies, the stars, the Heavens and simply just say, I believe in A God, not a certain one, but simply, THE ONE? The sad thing is, there are more things unraveling faith and proving that the Big Bang was true, than there are proving the Bible correct, if God wants us to know he exists, as so badly as he did in Biblical times, I think he might want to maybe show his face more than in just a set of clouds that I can also see a bunny rabbit, or a dragon, or a flower in, maybe the Virgin Mary, would like to show herself on more than a half chewed piece of grilled cheese sandwich, or on a reflecting window that got a little dirty, maybe Jesus would like to show himself more on something else rather than a piece of wood cut from a tree, or in a sun spot in a persons poorly developed film, maybe it’s about time someone, or something, just simply says, “I exist, look at me, hear me, love me, for I am your creator, and I will lead you to eternal bliss.”
I’ve been doing a lot of study into space, time, and life as we know it. I’ve got lots of questions and fewer answers, for instance, the Bible…..What the fuck?? If there is a God and the Bible is true, then why is it that God had to make all of his statements during the “Biblical Times”?? I mean, for instance, parting the seas, the 10 Commandments, turning water into wine, Noah’s Ark, the Virgin Mary, Being resurrected, etc. Weren’t the people who witnessed all of this technically cheating?? I mean, a story is told, some people witness this, and then what? We are to believe mortals that wrote stuff down in a book some thousands of years ago? Then this day and age comes around and all we get is that the Virgin Mary is trying to prove her existence on a half eaten piece of grilled cheese?? Where’s the fucking parting of the seas, or the dead coming alive, or it raining for 40 days and 40 nights for us?? Tell me this, if I was to tell you that God had told me a whole new set of rules for this day and age, listed in a whole new text of commandments, how quickly would I be thrown into a straight jacket and tossed into a padded room?? Think about it, why can one person believe all of the almost inhuman stories of the Bible, but not believe in magick, or magicians, or even ghosts? After all, was there not a Spirit and Holy Ghost mentioned in the Bible as the creator of all? If God created us all equal, then why do some in the early years of life, already get cancer, or are mentally handicapped, or suffer from other diseases? If you ask me, just me being able to walk, already makes me less equal to someone stuck in a wheelchair! I’m not saying I’m a better person, BUT, I do have more capabilities than them, it’s not fair, and for the children that die young, most would say, “Well they’re going to Heaven” WHY?? Because they didn’t have enough time to sever one of the commandments?? So if I live to be 100 years old, with many chances of possibly discouraging one of these “carved in stone” rules, and I end up, lets say, not honoring thy neighbor for instance, I go to Hell?? But a child gets to go to Heaven because he really hasn’t had a chance to see the “Ugly” in the world? That’s not quite fair to those who were blessed with this long life, witnessing Greed, Anger, Hate, Blasphemy, 10,000 different religions, and fights between who is wrong or right, War, Theft, Poverty, Bankruptcy, Bigotry, Disease, Murder, Illness, Loneliness, Evil, Rape, Incest, Pedophiles, Corruption, Mind Control, Government, Power Hunger, Arthritis, Anxiety, Stress, Unemployment and Exhaustion! If Heaven is the ultimate in happiness, and God is so perfect, why, when he says we are all equal, did he not make us all live to the same age and make us ALL equal? Therefore, the “Big Test” would fit all categories! What about all the other beliefs? What about Muslims, Mormons, Jehovah Witnesses, Wiccan’s, Islam’s, Catholics, Christians, Protestants, etc. Who is right? Are all the wrong ones going to Hell?? I wouldn’t exactly say that’s right, and YES, I will be the one to stand forth in front of God, and ask him all of this, if, in fact, he really does exist. For a God who says, “Don’t question me, for I am your Lord” made one GIGANTIC Boo-boo, he made us one of the most curious, and “Having to know” life forms known to man, for an entity so perfect as described in the Bible, how could he make such a mistake? Now lets go back to a human, which of course, are the ones who wrote the Bible by only hearing what was to be put into it. If I told you that I was a magician, but my only power was to turn an egg into a living bird, and I said, “Don’t question me, for I am a magician” everyone would laugh and try their damnest to find the answer to how I did this!! WOW! I turned an egg into a living creature!! But then, you look into a giant book considered non-fiction, or true, and read about Moses parting the seas, Noah building an ark so fucking big is can hold two of every living thing, about how it rained for 40 days and 40 nights, about Jesus getting nailed to a cross and then died and then got resurrected, about Sodom and Gomorrah and the pillar of salt that was once a woman who got to curious and looked back at the burning city, you will read this and say, “Wow, this must have happened, because it’s based on real places in the world!!” THAT DOESN’T MAKE SENSE!!! According to all religions, what is written in their book of worship, really happened, but I’d hate to break it to you all, either one of those things happened, or NONE OF IT happened, because if they all happened, then we would have over 100 Gods and Goddesses, the Wiccan’s and Greeks alone have numerous Gods and Goddesses, and yet again, they have their stories, did it ever make you wonder if some people, just like today, just felt like sitting down and writing the “Ultimate Story” and just used things that they witnessed with a little added feature of their own imaginations to make the story better? For instance, Sodom and Gomorrah, we had a city, built of rock, the Bible describes this city as the burning city, “Fire falling from the skies” to rid the area of incest, rape, etc. Did you know that the cities were built on top of one of the many troubling tectonic plates beneath the surface of the Earth, did you know that when these plates hit just right, or get unstuck from one another an Earthquake is normally the result of this? It’s also proven that pockets of gases are released when a strong enough Earthquake hits, and well an Earthquake hitting these cities, plus a release of gases coming in contact with a torch that may be lit in the city, would cause buildings to crash, explosions so enormous that burning objects would fly up into the sky and come crashing back down onto the city, and cause the death of many people. For others looking on, it would seem as if fire is falling from the Heavens, and therefore, it’s written down and documented. it’s things like these that people will be so quick to say, “There is a God, and Jesus Christ is my savior” all because a book says so! Well there were also other documentations made during these days, Serpents, Dragons, Monsters of the Seas, Aliens, etc. So why have we found skeletal remains of creatures that lived some millions and millions of years ago, but there are no remains of a Serpent or dragon that was documented during the Biblical times? Why do we only find the cities the Bible talks about, or bones of ancient Egyptians that were mentioned in there? It’s easy to be mentioned in a book if you were known to a lot of people, and a city is even easier to document, if King Tut was so great and got a beautiful resting place with jewelry and gold laid upon him, then why didn’t Jesus get something like this? Why can’t we at least find his bones?? Since the Bible says it’s the spirit that lives on, and we simply leave behind our shells, then Jesus also should have left behind his shell, where is it?? One of the greatest people EVER, and we don’t even have a piece of clothing?? How do people claim theirs vials of Jesus’ Blood? If his whole body disappeared spiritually, then his blood too, would have vanished right? Noah’s Ark, some claim they found wood way up in the mountains that could have very well been Noah’s Ark…..Well that’s awesome, but why did we only hear about it for a day, and then nothing?? I sit here, I watch the news endlessly, just waiting for these ground breaking stories to emerge, to help me believe, to prove that there is something beyond life, beyond the galaxy and even beyond the universe, but yet, nothing. Not a damn thing! Wouldn’t something like Noah’s Ark be a little more fascinating than a whole days worth of news?? Damn man, an 18 year old has sex with a 15 year old, and we hear about both people in depth, when their cases are, how they are convicted, the only thing missing is their shoe size! It goes on for days, sometimes weeks!! But Noah’s Ark only gets a DAY??!!! Well, IF they did find this wood up there, high in the mountains, it could have also been from the lands crushing together in time, after all, most of the largest mountains are nothing more than two huge bodies of land crushing into each other with such immense force, that the only way the land has to go, is up! That would be the reasons they found fossils at the highest peaks of the mountains that belong to sea life, because that land that reaches to the heavens was once underwater, DEEP underwater! So if you think about it, a boat that has sunk a long long time ago, could very well end up at the tops of these mountains! On another note, if our galaxy is just a speck, among millions and millions of other galaxies, who’s to say there is not life in some of them? If there is, then why did God decide to plant Jesus in one of our people? Are the rest of the worlds stuck in life of blindness? I wouldn’t say it’s quite fair to them that we got the only cheat sheet to existence after life, and do they Go to Hell because they don’t know the possible truth? Could you even imagine, if there is life on other planets, the amount of OTHER religions there are on just one of those planets?? And once again, whose to say they don’t have their own bible that’s possibly ONLY dedicated to cannibalism because their God said that it’s the right thing to do, and who witnessed all of those sayings from their God? The Mayan’s on Earth believed that the Gods or God fed off of the blood of sacrifice, hardly something we would believe is true in this day and age, but surely they had some sort of reason to believe this, who witnessed that this was the right thing to do? Why was it the right thing to do if it was in fact true? Why did the blood not rise up to the Heaven’s when the sacrifices took place and why did the Mayan’s not question this and see that the only place it went was through the open pores of the planet representing that technically Hell was engulfing the dead remnants? Everywhere from the Mayan’s to the Christians to the Indians, someone, somewhere supposedly witnessed something of great power, and every one of them wrote it down, and whoever came after was told these stories, all the way up to this day and age, now we are stuck, stuck with many different stories from many different regions, and all of them have a different tale to tell, some believe in one Almighty, while many others believe in many that share the same decisions of fate. So how does one person tell another that they are wrong? Are they that self minded that no one else can have an opinion of their own? If I believe in Pro-choice, and someone else believes in Pro-life, who are they to tell me I am wrong, and who am I to tell them I am right? If killing a baby is bad, then why is it ok to kill a human in war?? Because they are going to kill us if we don’t kill them?? Well according to the Bible, Killing is killing whether it’s done for duty, profit or fun! So who is anyone to say one person is right and one person is wrong, this planet has grown up on many things, one is killing, in the old years, it was done for power over all, at one time, it was the main source to keep certain nationalities strong, to live on as the King or Queen of whatever, for wealth and to become Gods of everyone else. Today, countries will say they are doing it for protection, but just like the Bible, we only believe what we are told, could it be that our Government is really just using our people to fight in these wars because they are simply nervous of another country becoming a little more powerful than us?? I would say it’s very possible, but yet, we need to kill other innocent people to keep this rank? Well if we are the most powerful, and everyone under us is less powerful, I don’t really see the less powerful people really bitching about it, the only ones having a tantrum is their governments, but the normal people, like the majority of us, seem to be living their lives just fine! Now obviously people like Osama Bin Laden gave our government a reason to attack, BUT, they say they attacked us first due to what their God told them to do! We laugh in his face and would feed him a bullet if we could, but think just for a second at what we are laughing at as we pull that trigger, we are laughing at a person who claims that his God told him to do this, isn’t this kind of the same thing as laughing at the human voice reading off the Ten Commandments, or the story passed on to others that they better follow onto an ark because a great flood is about to happen? I mean in the Bible, God sacrificed His ONLY SON!!! So technically, what is so insane about a God telling someone else to kill multiple people that don’t agree with his faith? If you can have your own son sacrificed, you can have anyone sacrificed. And don’t say that it was done for the forgiveness of our sins, why be so difficult? If Jesus died for our sins, and it cost God his ONLY son to do this, and then we are born into sin anyway, why didn’t God just make it simple?? HE IS GOD AFTER ALL! He didn’t have to do all that, he could have had his son grow on and get old and live happy and simply snap his fingers and say, “And with this snap of my fingers I say, LET THERE BE FORGIVENESS FOR SIN” and POOF it happens! Why be so complex? Because he can?? Didn’t he complete this already when he created the universe? Did he really have to get so specific and in depth that he pin pointed our little speck of dust we call Earth and add more to the pot of confusion? I don’t think so, but I am just like anyone else, born with questions that burn so fierce that with every year that ages me also adds a little more fuel to my need for an answer. I’m not a scientist, and I surely would not jump right to evolution, after all, if evolution is real and we never stop evolving, then why are there not half monkey half men running around, why are there monkeys and then there are humans? Shouldn’t every cycle be bumping into each other, or did the monkeys just decide some million years ago that they wanted to stop evolving, and then told the humans that were already evolved that they were on their own? Why is it that the oldest human being that has been found, is still pretty damn close to what we look like today? I may be wrong with that analogy, but damn it, at least I’m poking a stick at it, rather than walking around blind in my existence with two words and ONLY two words sitting in my head, “What if”!! I need to know, and I will either find out, or go insane trying. I can understand why Albert Einstein went nuts, I’m sure he overloaded his mind, for a mind so great as his, to somehow come up with the correct equation that Energy is in fact equal to mass times the speed of light and then multiplied again by the speed of light, is so outstandingly awesome, that it would be understandable that he was overloading, and then there’s me, surely no Einstein, with all of this in my head, more confusion than anything, but yet knowledgeable to be able to question “why” it would be understandable that I too, someday, will break. All of us have one major thing in common, Hope. Hope that our faith IS right, that there is something beyond, why can’t we all just look up in the skies, the stars, the Heavens and simply just say, I believe in A God, not a certain one, but simply, THE ONE? The sad thing is, there are more things unraveling faith and proving that the Big Bang was true, than there are proving the Bible correct, if God wants us to know he exists, as so badly as he did in Biblical times, I think he might want to maybe show his face more than in just a set of clouds that I can also see a bunny rabbit, or a dragon, or a flower in, maybe the Virgin Mary, would like to show herself on more than a half chewed piece of grilled cheese sandwich, or on a reflecting window that got a little dirty, maybe Jesus would like to show himself more on something else rather than a piece of wood cut from a tree, or in a sun spot in a persons poorly developed film, maybe it’s about time someone, or something, just simply says, “I exist, look at me, hear me, love me, for I am your creator, and I will lead you to eternal bliss.”
These are all my own words, through nature, happiness, sadness, loss of loved ones, wealth, poverty and confusion, life itself has inspired me to write these words, I do not think any ONE religion is wrong and I will never tell someone that my beliefs are right, maybe other people should start respecting everyone else in their faiths as well.
This may be one of the most important things for you to read, for those who can’t take a few minutes to read, simply stop whining and go somewhere else then, this takes me no longer than 7 minutes to read and I don’t read fast, if 7 minutes is too long for you, then you may need to switch your lives over to sesame street! To those who have read this, THANK YOU, I appreciate it, and I am not Christian, I am Wiccan, but respect all beliefs.
Tuesday 28 October 2008 @ 7:58 am
Sunday 26 October 2008 @ 8:27 pm
mEWzikfreeckJESUSFREAK wonders:
I am falling into blindness
I have faded to a shadow
Can’t remember why I did this
How could I have been so thoughtless?
I am falling into blindness
I have faded to a shadow
Can’t remember why I did this
How could I have been so thoughtless?
Things won’t stay
The way they seem
Because I still dream
Chorus 1: Of days that fade into the night
Still darkness bends before the light
I cannot stand, I’ve run too far
So that I might reach where you are
You alone can break the silence
I can speak but I can’t hide it
All this time I’ve been so jaded
But with you… I’m vindicated
Sometimes I’m lost
To what you mean
But I still dream
Chorus 2: That you will be the one I find
So it won’t matter what’s behind
How I betrayed you from my heart
Only to find you were a part
And when I see you face to face
I know that this will be replaced
All that I’ve seen and all I’ve done
Nobody’s there except for one
Friday 24 October 2008 @ 9:29 am
Ingrid Margaret wonders:
In free online dating services, you learn to know people through less threatening ways so that by the time you actually meet in person, you are more comfortable with one another before developing into any further relationships.
Shared Pictures
With the best of the dating services sites, you will be able to post and download photos of the people you are communicating with. You should always select pictures that show you in your best attitude, but don’t share a picture that is obviously outdated, such as a picture of you as a 25 year old when you just had your 45th birthday. You should also be careful about sharing pictures of you before you gained 75 pounds. You should certainly never send pictures of someone else pretending that they are photos of you.
Preliminary Conversations
When taking part in the activities on free online dating services sites, you will typically have the opportunity to take part in email contacts. Beyond emails, many singles members will gradually begin to expand into public and then private chats with another person. Through this process, there is some knowledge gained of the other person’s personality, likes and dislikes. You can also begin to make some decisions about whether you want to carry the relationships to the level of meeting in person. You won’t have to be operating totally blind in this meeting. You will have already gained some information about the person and can decide whether the meeting is likely to be a success or not.
Major Likes and Dislikes
When you are taking one of the free online dating services singles contacts to the next level, you have already determined whether the other individual has likes and dislikes that mesh with your own. If you definitely are a vegetarian and the other person’s favorite food is rib eye steak–medium rare, you may have a difficult time determining where you will be able to find a restaurant that both of you will appreciate. Learning about such characteristics before getting to the dating level will save you a lot of time.
Finding an activity
Getting ready to meet someone that you got to know using free online dating services is an important step in the progression of your relationships. One of the things that will help you be more relaxed in meeting the person face to face for the first time is finding an activity that works for a first date. Finding an activity that you both enjoy is easier because you have learned something about each other previously. You can take advantage of that to pick activities for your date that will help relieve the stress of meeting a person for the first time.
No expectations
Meeting the people you have contacted at the free online dating services web site is easier if you don’t form a series of expectations that must be met prior to the time of actually talking to the person face to face. You are better off to try to keep an open mind about whether you will enjoy each other’s company or not. You must decide that it is okay no matter which way the date goes. That way, you can relax and enjoy the date rather than forming mental road maps of what will happen next.
In free online dating services, you learn to know people through less threatening ways so that by the time you actually meet in person, you are more comfortable with one another before developing into any further relationships.
Shared Pictures
With the best of the dating services sites, you will be able to post and download photos of the people you are communicating with. You should always select pictures that show you in your best attitude, but don’t share a picture that is obviously outdated, such as a picture of you as a 25 year old when you just had your 45th birthday. You should also be careful about sharing pictures of you before you gained 75 pounds. You should certainly never send pictures of someone else pretending that they are photos of you.
Preliminary Conversations
When taking part in the activities on free online dating services sites, you will typically have the opportunity to take part in email contacts. Beyond emails, many singles members will gradually begin to expand into public and then private chats with another person. Through this process, there is some knowledge gained of the other person’s personality, likes and dislikes. You can also begin to make some decisions about whether you want to carry the relationships to the level of meeting in person. You won’t have to be operating totally blind in this meeting. You will have already gained some information about the person and can decide whether the meeting is likely to be a success or not.
Major Likes and Dislikes
When you are taking one of the free online dating services singles contacts to the next level, you have already determined whether the other individual has likes and dislikes that mesh with your own. If you definitely are a vegetarian and the other person’s favorite food is rib eye steak–medium rare, you may have a difficult time determining where you will be able to find a restaurant that both of you will appreciate. Learning about such characteristics before getting to the dating level will save you a lot of time.
Finding an activity
Getting ready to meet someone that you got to know using free online dating services is an important step in the progression of your relationships. One of the things that will help you be more relaxed in meeting the person face to face for the first time is finding an activity that works for a first date. Finding an activity that you both enjoy is easier because you have learned something about each other previously. You can take advantage of that to pick activities for your date that will help relieve the stress of meeting a person for the first time.
No expectations
Meeting the people you have contacted at the free online dating services web site is easier if you don’t form a series of expectations that must be met prior to the time of actually talking to the person face to face. You are better off to try to keep an open mind about whether you will enjoy each other’s company or not. You must decide that it is okay no matter which way the date goes. That way, you can relax and enjoy the date rather than forming mental road maps of what will happen next.
Friday 24 October 2008 @ 9:09 am
CliffBetweenTheLines wonders:
I’ve been gone for a while, this is one major reason why. If you are looking for happy, this isn’t your vid.
I’ve had something major wrong with me since about a year ago, and I’ve only mentioned this to three people on YouTube. The docs have been trying to diagnose it for nine months. Now they have. I’m not happy, but I thought I would share it.
A further note: there are other things, too, that are very dark right now, but I probably won’t be addressing them in vids unless they just tackle me and I can’t get back up. Until such time, after this vid, back to normal 
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